Part 3/3: How to dissolve the “distance doubt” in long distance relationships :

 

 

 

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Getting your needs met is all about knowing/loving thyself, creativity, and... communication! The famous number one skill of LDR couples. It’s obvious but far from easy, so let’s focus on communication:

1. Know that everything you feel is valid. If you are not happy, then 50% of the couple is not happy and your role is not exclusively to please and give to your partner… It is to receive their love and devotion as well! The more you connect with yourself, get to know how you like to be treated, the better they will be able to do that for you.

2. Get vulnerable and express things as they come. Muster up the courage to express them, even when you would like your partner to perceive you in a specific way and you feel that vulnerability isn’t a good look… Get over it, rip that band aid off, because true connection comes from this and the alternative looks like eventual resentment and emotional outbursts later down the road.

3. When something needs to be done (aka not just expressed), be open to having a conversation back and forth on how to improve things. Be solution oriented as a couple.

BONUS: Where are you relying too heavily on your romantic partner to meet your needs? One person cannot be everything to you. Be the lover you want and diversity the sources of love coming your way… This is so important, more on that soon.

Long distance relationships are always a challenge, so don’t beat yourself up!! You are both on the same team, never forget that. Hell, give yourself a cheesy team name to remind yourselves of that when the tension rises. You’ll thank me later! 😘

Book a free discovery call with me to work 1:1 and see where your long distance relationship could use a few tweaks that go a long way.